When you are new to swinging it can be challenging. It’s not uncommon for newbie’s in the lifestyle to be nervous and not understand how it all works. Being a single man or a man in a swinging relationship can make this even harder. Here are a few tips that will help you transition in to the lifestyle more easily.

Join the Right Site
Make sure that the swingers site that you join is busy and vibrant, check out the personal ads for your location, for example if you lived in say Waterford, Ireland this sites section on Waterford Swingers would show you that the site is busy, is regularly attracting new members and that the existing members are active, a busy site means more choice.

Check Out the Forums

Swinging forums are a great source of information by actual swingers. People will tell stories of their past experiences, and this allows you to get a better idea of what you should expect as a new swinger. You can also read how couples find a single man to join if this is your situation. Swingers are an open minded bunch of people, and they won’t chastise you for asking questions. This makes forums invaluable when it comes to swinging for newbie’s.

Setting Rules

If you are involved in a relationship with someone who wants to swing, the first thing you should do is set some rules. Each couple will have their own rules, and there are never any rules that are wrong. It’s just a matter of what works for you. The purpose of the rules is to keep the relationship strong while decreasing the jealousy factor. Jealousy won’t disappear entirely, but with good boundaries in place it does help decrease the feelings.  If you are single and looking to swing, rules are still important. If you’ve been invited to play with other couples, you need to know what their rules are. This will eliminate any issues with their relationship and will allow everyone to enjoy themselves.